Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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I first read Kyoko Mori’s A Dream of Water my freshman year of college four years ago and was struck by how beautifully she writes. Lists with This Book.

Standing in this painful place of perfect honesty, Mori explores the ties that bind us to family and the lies that keep us apart, the rituals of mourning that make death human, and the images of the body that make sex seem foreign to Japanese women and ever-present to Americans.

For herself, unable to decide on a way of life that didn’t involve compromise, the author chose divorce: Put Your Heart on Paper. So, be a feminist Hemingway. Aside from those little details, I would recommend this book.

I’m giving this a higher rating than I gave her first memoir, The Dream of Waterbecause I can see Mori’s personal growth in this one. Polite lies help us stomach the world.

Her comparisons between the Japanese and American particularly Midwestern US cultures was extremely interesting. Living Alone and Loving It.

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Maybe if I had picked up and started during another time of year, I might have finished it, because I think it was interesti Caveat: This is getting three stars because I have mixed feelings about it. Nov 27, Loes Patak rated it it was ok. She just really wants to understand as much as she possibly can. Whenever I think of the coast of Nagasaki, I feel at home.

I can see where a lot of her behaviors come from but I do think Kyoko needs to lighten up about the laundry! You can read this item using any of the following Kobo apps and devices: I can empathize with that loathing.

I can’t disagree with her, as obviously she knows more about the culture than I do, kuoko I couldn’t help feeling a little nervous about her negativity at times. Polite lies can be our defense against I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people in her family.

Kyoko says toward the end of the book, oyoko mean so many things by home. While the book does more than a good job of exposing the fascinating and often negative undercurrents of Japanese society, I get the feeling Mori was so choked by her upbringing she has gone to the opposite extreme.

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Making Peace with God. Mori describes some really eye opening cultural differences – health care and whether you’re told the ‘whole’ truth about your condition! You’ve successfully reported this review.

As an insight into the psychopathology of Kyoko Mori herself, Polite Lies is unparalleled. In twelve penetrating, painful, and at ,yoko hilarious essays, she explores the codes liea silence, deference, and expression that Of course, she argues, there are polite lies–religious rituals, for example, or the platitudes oolite utter in the face of adversity–that we need, that offer us comfort and may actually be preferable to harsh truths.

Remembering the Way Homeand I look forward to reading it.

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This collection of essays includes a lot of somber reflection not just about living between two cultures but also about processing family pain and grief. The Other Side of Suicide. I read this poliet after living in Japan for a couple of years.

Jan 03, Gloria rated it liked it Shelves: It also seemed as if she wanted to permanently silence her father. Her examination of her family made for very interesting reading. The essays are or at least come off as very personal and that gives you a perspective that you could not get any other way.

Whether or not he would have been able to treat the cancer effectively had it been discovered earlier, we’ll never know.